Great friends, busy schedule, and who doesn’t love family time and time spent with friends….but yet – why do we still feel lonely?
Author Erin Davis and many others can relate.
In her new book Connected, Davis talks about the pain of loneliness while “swimming in a sea of people.”
Follow along with Davis as she tells of her journey to “cure” this epidemic. Trying various things from a Social Media Fast to not using anything “automated” at all, she shares in a fun but truthful fashion the struggles of being lonely and disconnected.
As I read this book, I found my shy, isolated self completely relating to what she was talking about. Most people that truly know me, know that I’m an outgoing cut up – kid at heart and just love each and every day. I love people and meeting new people on any level isn’t a problem for me. But, they forget about the “loner” that lives within my heart. The girl that loves doing things along, being alone and thinks that watching a movie in a theater and NO one else is there is a gift. There is just something cool about it.
So many people are lonely and have no clue what to do to break out of the cycle. It seems to be a never ending curse.
Sometimes we have to step outside of our comfort zone and chat with people.
Sometimes we have to put a halt to our busy schedule and make time to have lunch/dinner with those we love and adore.
Sometimes we have to put down the phone and play in the homemade fort that is taking up the living room.
If you’ve ever struggled with loneliness even though you are surrounded by people you are NOT alone.
Author Erin Davis shares several things that she did on this journey that you will find helpful and may spark other ideas as well.
May I add a few thoughts to help you connect as well?
- Eye contact – for everyone! Your spouse, children, friends, family etc. They will know beyond a shadow of a doubt you are paying attention to them.
- HUG – Hugs are awesome. Seriously – go hug someone.
- When you are at a restaurant, bank or store and the person helping you has on a name tag, USE their name. Especially when saying thank you.
- Schedule time with friends and family that live outside your home – We try to get together often. Don’t wait until a funeral to come together. Schedule monthly meals somewhere and those that can come..will and those that can’t, maybe the next time they can.
- At Church take some time to greet others, speak to others instead of rushing through the service and time. Shake hands with someone you don’t know. Help a mom get her children to the nursery. Say something encouraging to the Pastor, Youth Pastor or Assistant Pastor.
- Lastly – there is no right or wrong way to set limits with your technology/Social Media use. I love technology and depend on it to keep up with my son who is 3 hours away and my daughter who is 14 hours away. I love being able to keep up with family that is not close as well as encourage those around the globe via Twitter. But, there are limits I personally set. For instance, I have NO notifications coming to my phone. Zero. Other than texts and calls I get my emails and other notifications when my time permits it. When we have dinner, it’s been cell phone free for years. We even had our children do the same when they were growing up. Again, no right or wrong way, just find out what works for you.
I love this book and I’m thankful for BH Publishing Group for allowing me to give away a 2 copies of this book for you.
There is a section in the back where you can use the question to connect with God and with others. It’s a great book to use as a Bible Study help or in a Small Group/Sunday School setting.
Her website also has some “freebies” – Verse Cards for you to use. Check it out here: http://www.erindavis.org/freebies/
Loneliness has a way of jumping over all geographical and social boundaries.
Knowing and being known only happens when we allow the roots of our relationships to grow deep.
(In regards to God’s love being a precious gift) – Being so intimately known is the vaccination we all need to cure our deep feelings of loneliness.
Yes, Jesus loves me this I Know. But when loneliness comes, I need to be reminded that Jesus KNOWS me. This I love!
So often, loneliness is not something that is forced upon us, but rather a path we choose to walk. While painful, loneliness is the path of least resistance. Connection takes effort. But it is worth fighting for!
I Have 2 copies that I’d love to give away.
To be entered to win, please leave a comment below about how you connect with people(or not.) THIS will do more than enter you to win – it will ENCOURAGE someone who is struggling with this….so go, comment and thank you.
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