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July 23, 2010 by Spreading Joy

Love Hurts

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A friend of mine reminded me of something today that I know and unfortunately – I know it all to well.  Love hurts!  It truly does.

No matter who it is that you love, you run the risk of hurting because of that love.  Sometimes it’s done intentionally, other times it’s by accident and sometimes there is absolutely nothing that can be done at all.  We’ve all spent countless hours with tears falling because someone we love has hurt us, or someone that we love is hurting.

When you give your heart away you run the risk of having to pick it back up, one piece at a time because someone has torn it into a million pieces.  You don’t know if your heart will be treasured as much as you desire.  But still, you take the risk and give it away.

Love hurts when parents don’t care or value their children as much as they should. Love hurts when we’ve taught our children to do their best, make wise choices and they still decide to do what will completely destroy their life.  Love hurts when you are sitting in the hospital room and the doctor tells you to do what you want to do because you’ve only got six months to live.  Love hurts when that person looks at you after hearing they only have a short time to live and says….”what do you think?” At that moment LOVE is killing you and ripping your heart to pieces and all you can mutter is, “I love you and I’m going to miss you deeply.”

Love hurts when you watch your loved one slowly forget what they’ve known all along as well as how to do simple day to day things.  Love hurts every single time you leave them at the nursing home because they can no longer take care of themselves nor do they remember who you are.

Love hurts when you do your very best but you hear that your best isn’t good enough. Love hurts when you no longer fit in because aren’t as nice looking as the rest of the group.

Love hurts when you are holding a limp body that is convulsing with pain because it has been through so much and your only desire is for the pain to be placed on you, but you know differently. You can’t help them; all you can do is hold them and weep because love hurts so much.

Love hurts when you get a phone call that says “there was an accident” or “they had a heart attack” and you think back to the last words that you said.  Love hurts as you are numb with grief and try to remember if you told them just how much you loved them.

Love hurts when you’ve tried and tried but fail.  You look upon your friends and wonder when will it be your turn.  You love them, but love hurts.  Love hurts when your best friend is on the phone, crying and the words won’t come.  You have no comfort to offer her, so you listen in silence and cry with her, wishing your heart would speak to you so you could help her.

Love hurts when you realize that “I’ll always love you” doesn’t mean forever anymore and love hurts when “I’ll never forget” ends way too soon.

Yes, my beautiful friend. Love DOES hurt.  But Love also does many other things.   

Love comforts the heart that has been torn into a million pieces because the heart is an amazing thing and love is so very powerful.   It is the comfort of sending an emergency text requesting prayer and having that text replied to at 2:30 in the morning saying that others are praying as well.

Love brings peace on the other end of the phone that simply says, “I’m sorry and I love you. I can not let you hang up until we laugh!”  and then simply talking until the natural effect of love takes place and the laughter simply oozes out.

Love gives delight and puts a gleam in the parent’s eyes for a visit from a “complete stranger” at the nursing home.  They don’t have the memories anymore, but the time spent right now fills their heart with delight! Love is coming home to a parent that says welcome home, your room is waiting and even though you don’t deserve one single solitary nice thing from your parent, the forgiveness is greater than all that awaits you, because you know you don’t deserve that love or forgiveness anymore.

Love assures the child and reminds him or her that he doesn’t have to pretend or be fake because their parents love them, just the way they are.  Regardless of weight, looks, IQ, status in school or the kind of career they end up in. Love is real and unconditional. Love is stomping through mud puddles while holding someone’s hand and laughing because this opportunity doesn’t happen often.

Love is an opportunity to say I will miss you when these few short months are gone, but you have made my world far better than I could have made it without you.  Love is an opportunity to share and laugh at the little things that make life big. We can’t always count on being wildly successful or the greatest, but we can make the most of each opportunity brought our way, no matter how small.

Love restores hope when all hope has been lost.  It lifts the head of the discouraged, it lights a fire in the eyes of the depressed.  Love motivates, encourages and inspires others to love and usually in a greater fashion.  Love shows the beauty of disfigurement, the tenderness of the aged, the passion of the brave and the power of the fearful.  Love thunders its power through the pain and sickness of cancer and the many diseases that grip our hearts with uncertainty.  Love whispers reassurance that no matter what, I’m right here with you.

Love divides the pain and doubles the JOY.  Love is patient, kind, enormous, caring, abundant, boundless, dependent as well as helpful, responsible, peaceful, thoughtful, calming and serious.

Love will allow a mom to step between her child and danger without consideration of the outcome.  Love will wake a friend in the middle of the night without worry of what might be said later. Love brings music to the heart during the worst trial and allows you to sing even though tears may be falling.

Love is the mile wide smiles that are painted on faces because of the sparkle in the eyes of another.  Love is the hug that doesn’t let go right off the bat because the moment, the instant the hug is given the heart is flooded with spectacular joy from such a simple, yet wonderful gift.  Love is the joy that fills the soul when good nights or even good byes are exchanged.  Love is the tears that are shed because you wonder how in the world you ever made it through the day without their love to begin with.

Yes, it is true.  Love does hurt and the risk is great.  But with all the wonderful things love does, I say go for it!  Love and love deeply!  Love is worth the risk as the returns are so much greater than the pain.

Will you risk love?

Is it worth the risk?

{{HUGS}} yall

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Comments

  1. 1

    Aaron says

    July 23, 2010 at 9:33 pm

    Love hurts when it comes from a human heart, because it is sinfully broken and is not capable of anything else. But when we turn our hearts over to God and love with His heart, “His steadfast love endures forever!”

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      Marie says

      July 25, 2010 at 9:26 am

      Yes…I’m so thankful love does endure forever!! I’m awed by the fact that as Psalm 139 says, HE knows us…everything – yet He loves us, unconditionally.

      I purchased a card last night for a friend who received the “heart attack” phone call – it says:

      Love is the only thing that can get us through,
      the only thing that matters,
      the only thing that lasts forever.

      I’m sooo thankful that Love lasts forever.

      Thank you Aaron for taking the time to comment!! Many have told me how this has encouraged them. I hope many will continue to risk love, as it does last.

      {{HUGS}}
      @spreadingJOY

      Reply
  2. 3

    Dustin W. Stout says

    July 25, 2010 at 7:29 pm

    beautifully articulated. love is ALWAYS worth the risk!

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  3. 4

    Sara says

    July 26, 2010 at 3:04 pm

    Love is always worth it. Our daughter died from Rett Syndrome would we have changed one second of the pain no because she was so worth. We now foster children with life threatning conditions we gave known deep pain but we have also known great joy. If tomorrow we were asked to do it all again I would do it gladly a day filled with love and joy is worth a lifetime of pain.

    Thank for these words, I needed the reminder today of the value of love.

    God bless xxxx

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  4. 5

    Michael Sarles AKA @MASisMore says

    July 26, 2010 at 4:09 pm

    Marie, this post is so beautiful and very timely for me. Thank you. I will always risk love and always think it is worth the risk… especially if the other person is worth it. She is and was.

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    Angie says

    July 26, 2010 at 7:00 pm

    This is beautiful Sis!! Love ya so very much!!

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  6. 7

    Spreading Joy says

    July 31, 2010 at 9:56 pm

    Thanks @Angie – I love you to…very much

    @Michael Sarles – I’m glad it reminded you tath it is always worth the risk. Regardless of the outcome, we are always better for having loved.

    @Sara Thank kind of hurt is so deep, yet it is driving you to do great things for others. I commend you on your giving spirit and helping kids with disadvantages in life have more of an opportunity. You are pretty cool like that.

    @Dustin thank you so much! totally Appreciate you stopping by and commenting!!

    Keep loving deeply yall!! {{HUGS}}

    Reply
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    Kat Caverly says

    October 25, 2010 at 12:23 pm

    Love is most definitely worth the pain. When you love someone the pain is proof of the depth of that love and the joys this love brings more than balances any and all of the pain.
    Kat Caverly recently posted..Getting a Pumpkin for Halloween

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    charrwaltt says

    October 25, 2010 at 12:45 pm

    Thanks for this Marie. I am struggling with this love thing myself right now seeking God’s grace and mercy.

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    Spreading Joy says

    November 5, 2010 at 11:48 pm

    @Kat I completely agree! Love is worth the pain. The benefits out weigh the risks.

    @Charwaltt thank you for stopping by. God’s grace and mercy carry us through so much of the pain love causes too. I love that. May the issues you are struggling with come to light soon and then the joy of loving can fill your heart again!

    YOU both are loved here!!

    {{HUGS}}}
    @spreadingJOY

    Reply
  10. 11

    Jamie says

    October 14, 2011 at 1:35 am

    love ISNT worth the risk, when you don’t know what it is, when your never showed it. When it hurts you so bad that it keeps you up endless nights in tears longing to be with someone who truly does love you. Love drives some people crazy and to the edge. its better to never have known love, if your not showed it in the first place cause all it will do is cause more damage and make you crazy. it has made my life a living hell. i cant believe i thought you actually loved me, i was so wrong. love hurts and it is so not worth it. it will eventually make you hate everyone you have ever loved, especially in people like me. i wish i could turn back time and never had trusted you with my heart. it isnt worth the risk when you think someone loves you, only to be showed that is was all a lie. there for love will never be worth the risk for me, ever again. i would take it all back if i could. i will never love another living soul as long as i live…life without love is better then love with all the pain and lies.

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      Marie says

      October 14, 2011 at 5:27 am

      Jamie, I pray that you’ll have the courage to get the help that you need. I’ve always showed you love and kindness as has many many others….as much as we could/can online. I’m sorry that you are hurting as much as you are.

      Praying you stick with the decision to get help.

      warmest {hugs]
      @spreadingJOY

      Reply
  11. 13

    Lauri Halterman says

    September 19, 2012 at 7:24 pm

    Beautiful post my friend!!

    You touched on so much truth, ! ?

    Reply
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      Lauri Halterman says

      September 19, 2012 at 7:25 pm

      Ignore the …?….

      I was going for a ….?…..

      Reply
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        Lauri says

        September 19, 2012 at 7:30 pm

        Ok…. A :heart:

        It’s not recognizing my characters.

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    Felecia Wong says

    September 19, 2012 at 10:06 pm

    Thank you for this beautiful reminder! Yes, love hurts but it’s worth the risk.
    1 year ago, my husband, my love passed away, so sudden … and it really really hurts ..
    I think I read this post sometime last year too and as I read it again today, it opened my eyes and reminded me to continue to love anyway ‘coz it’s worth it!

    May God bless your ministry!

    Reply
  13. 17

    Mirv says

    January 29, 2015 at 5:05 pm

    Marie you constantly show your love towards everyone, your articles are “YOU” and I so appreciate how you share the love of Jesus, me fully knowing that you love becauze He firzt loved us.

    Thank you for sharing and making a dicference one encoufagement at a time.
    I am so blessed to have met you though only through social media , #Tworship and some phonecalls on this side of eternity…. I thank the Lord that we will continue to partner in heaven worshipping the King.

    Reply

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