You Are Invited

april party


It’s my Birthday (April 8th) and YOU are invited to my Virtual Birthday Party.

What’s on my wish list you ask?

Well, I am surrounded by great love, have a roof over my head, a cute little car to drive….a job to go to each day, Reese’s Cups and coffee any time I want – so I’m more blessed than I deserve. (Well, one could never have too much coffee….or Reese’s Cups) …anyway

My wish list is an easy one – I wish for 200 Christmas Toys for our Christmas Joy 2014 event.  

For the entire month of April all donations will go to purchase (In May) toys for the kids.  

Your gift of $10 in honor of my birthday = TOYS for needy children

Your gift of $20 in honor of my birthday = TOYS for needy children

Your gift of $50 in honor of my birthday = TOYS for needy children

Your gift of $100 in honor of my birthday = TOYS for needy children

Will you celebrate with me? Will you please click this donate button and make my birthday a day (well a month) of great JOY? 


If you’d like to mail a donation for the kinds – please mail to:

Spreading Joy Corp
PO Box 1771
Denver NC 28037

Thank you!

Thank you for celebrating with me!




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Secretly Pay for a Meal

Secretly Pay for a meal or coffee! Have Fun Spreading JOY. Get These Cards FREE!

Have you ever secretly paid for someone’s meal? Isn’t it the greatest?

Have you ever purchase a coffee or meal for the person behind you in a drive through? If not, you should…it is so much fun.

The next time you are in a restaurant, look across the room and find someone that you could do this for.  Call over the server and ask for their ticket.  Give them this cute little business size card and tell them NOT to let the people know who paid for it.  When you do this, you are also bringing joy to your server, as they get the be the person that “hand delivers JOY” to the unsuspecting customer.


The next time you are in a drive through – tell the cashier at the window that you’d like to pay for the car behind you.  Ask them to give this neat card to them.  It explains that their meal has been paid for! Again, you are involving an additional person and spreading joy to more than just the recipient of the meal.

I love doing this!

I love thinking that if they’ve had a bad day, this will make it better.

I love surprising everyday ordinary people.

Do you know what I love more? I love that this simple act of joy will inspire them to do the same for others.

So that you can have fun Spreading Joy in this manner, I have these cards on hand for you to use.  They are the size of a business card and will easily go in your wallet.

I will send you these cards for FREE! 

Yes, you read that right.  FREE 

Please mail a self addressed stamped envelope to:

Spreading Joy
PO Box 1771
Denver NC 28037


If you put One Stamp on the envelope – I’ll send you back 6 cards. 

If you put TWO Stamps on the envelope – I’ll send you back 12 cards. 

Please, post this to your Facebook page, RT on Twitter and Share on Pinterest and Linked In so that others can know how to get these cute little business size cards for absolutely FREE!


If you’d rather not have the nice, sturdy little business cards – you can print them off here.


Have fun Spreading Joy and making a difference! 

Share your story below.  Have you done this?  Have you had someone pay for your meal?  Tell us about it below!



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Helping Others Through Grief

Father’s Day is such a difficult time for me…even still.

My Dad died July 20th 2003 and sometimes, it’s still so very painful.  Even though we had 5 months to prepare for his death and we knew he was/is much better off, being without him was far more painful than anything I had ever experienced.

I’ve always been compassionate with people during this time as we all grieve differently.  There is no right or wrong way to deal with it.

Death, in general, is hard for us to deal with.  Even as a Christian and knowing that my loved one is in Heaven and there will be a grand reunion day someday, the journey of separation is still a tough one.

Many people feel awkward and have no clue what to say or do for someone who is grieving deeply.  They fear that they will say or do the wrong thing and cause more pain.  I can say with complete assurance that NOT saying or doing anything WILL cause more pain.

Here are some things that I’ve done and have had done for me.  Nothing is a sure thing, but, trust me, it all helps.

  1.  Acknowledge the pain – It’s ok to say “I’m sorry.”  And nothing more.  Many feel that those few words is simply not enough, but it truly is.  You don’t have to go into a long dissertation about why you are sorry.  A gentle smile, hug and I’m sorry is more valuable than you’ll ever know.
  2. Send a card – Send a card when the death occurs AND then, depending on the relationship, send throughout the year.  Going with them on the journey of “1st” is especially helpful.  A card on their first Christmas without them.  Their first birthday without them and then the person that died…their birthday.  If it was a child, I encourage you to do something monthly.  I can’t imagine this type of loss, but a year of letting them know you thought of them and the loss they are dealing with is priceless.  In 2000, both my children’s best friends died.  Megan was 5 ½ and Todd had just turned 9.  I knew and deeply loved both those children.  Saw them weekly and spent a lot of time with them.  I didn’t know what to do, but felt that I had to do something.  I sent both mothers a poem, card, verses – something – anonymously each month for a while. If you don’t know certain dates… then send something on the date that the loved one passed away.
  3. Hug them and often – When the dust settles and time has passed, gently hug them and tell them they are in your thoughts.  Don’t think that by remembering you’ll bring more pain.  You won’t.  You’ll bring more joy because of the fact you remembered.
  4. Use the name of the loved one that died – Their name is being said less and heard less now.  Use it.  A while back I was in the neighborhood that I grew up in and stopped in for a hot dog at the little hole in the wall place that has been there since I was a little girl.  I have no clue who it was, but while I was waiting, someone came in and placed an order and then turned to me and said “You are John Horne’s daughter aren’t you?”  I smiled and said yes, I was.  He smiled, shook his head and said “I sure do miss Big John.  He was a good ole boy with a huge heart.”  I smiled and thanked him for those kind words…and yes, my eyes filled with tears, but I was so thankful for that moment.
  5. Take Action– Don’t just ask the family members, “do you need anything?”  Don’t do it.  In all honesty, they don’t know.  So, if you’ll permit me to, I’ll give you a few things that are ALWAYS needed.
    • Disposable plates, cups, forks, spoons and napkins
    • Drinks and ice
    • Food, other than chicken.  J seriously… a sweet saint that is now in Heaven herself, brought chinese to our dads house during his last few days.  I told her later on that she made our day as we were all chickened out.
    • Breakfast – Stop by and get a dozen biscuits, drop them off on your way to work. Believe me when I say… someone is NOT sleeping.
    • Trash bags
    • Candy and snack basket.  Many people are dropping in and out and they always have children.  This is a huge help for the mom that wants to visit with her friend during this time of sorrow.
    • Fold up chairs – even soccer chairs that we carry in our trunks.  Put your name on it and let them borrow it.
    • Pizza – sometimes there is no warning of death, but other times…there is, like with my dad.  One night, while sitting up with him – it was 2am and we all wanted pizza.  Thankfully we ordered and got one.
  6. Continue to be a source of light and encouragement for the one’s left behind – This is huge.  Encourage them to do things for others, take them out to a dinner or even just window shopping.  Allow them to cry without making them feel guilty.  And never, ever say… “it’s been “x” amount of time, you should be over it.”  Encourage them to do something for someone else. Little things.   I spent 2 years in a dark depression after my dad died.  To this day, I don’t remember much about those 2 years and even just in the past year or so, found out things I didn’t even know.  For instance, even though I was trying to prepare everyone for his death and though I was prepared myself – when they compassionately took my father away, as if he were asleep and not in a body bag – all I could do was hug him and cry out I’m sorry…over and over.  I’m sorry.  “Someone” grabbed me and just held me while I sobbed.  For seven years, I had no idea who that was.  Discussing it sometime later, I found out.  And, I couldn’t remember what brought me out of my deep depression.  My sister told me not long ago that it was the ladies that wanted to “be a secret sister” in church but their limited finances kept them from it.  I literally poured myself into getting things donated so that they could do something for someone else.  Does this always work? I don’t know, but I do know that there is always more joy in giving of ourselves to others than we ever imagine.
  7. Go over and volunteer your services – Don’t just say, “I can come over and help.”  Just show up.  Chat with them and throw away cups that have been left out, napkins lying on the counter and take out the trash.  Load the dishwasher and do the “obvious” stuff.  THEN ask, “While I’m here, let me be a blessing to you, what is next?”


Be a friend during this most difficult time.  That is the main thing.

We all grieve differently.  We all walk on the journey of separation in our own way.  It doesn’t mean we have to go it alone.  Get counseling, seek medical help and/or wrap yourself with the love of those that are left behind with you.

May I add one more thing?  NOW is the time to say I love you.  Now is the time to forgive.  Now is the time to spend time with those you love.  Now!  We are not guaranteed tomorrow.

[whispering] Happy Father’s Day Dad.  This journey has been harder than any, but my prayer is that through my pain, voice and time apart from you that someone else receives a blessing.  I love you and miss you dearly.

If you’ve been here, on this journey of separation, please help us help others by sharing in the comment section below what made a difference for you during the time your heart was grieving. 


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Hope in Emptiness


I love that with the Resurrection there is hope in hopeless situations.

I love that even though it looks like things will end, that the beginning is right there in Christ, A new beginning in Christ. I love that when I feel that all is lost, the SONrise will remind me that the day can be even brighter when I choose to focus on HIM.

I love the joy we have in knowing that the gift of the cross is open and available for anyone who seeks peace that passes all understanding.

As we follow Jesus all the Way, This is my prayer for each of US

Lord, help us not to:

Focus on those that hurt me or use me for their gain. Even when I “thought” they were true friends. (Luke 6:28 Bless them that curse you and pray for them which despitefully use you)

Focus on how it looks like I’m not reaping from the goodness I’ve sown, when I’m so very blessed even though it’s not financial.

Focus on the impossibility because I know that with God all things are possible.

Focus on the why’s, the doubts or fears because I know to do so limits the good that I can do for the Lord.

Focus on the pain that engulfs my heart sometimes because in doing so, it blinds me from noticing and helping others that are hurting.

Focus on the famous because when I do, I lose sight of the forgotten ones that you bled and died for.

Focus on being powerful and mighty and just simply remain available for anything that you have for our life.

Focus on our inefficiencies but rather wrap my heart around the fact that I can do all things through Christ because HE strengthens me.

Focus on the past, because it will bog down my future with guilt, shame and keep me from pressing towards the great things God will do through me….right HERE, right NOW.

Lord, do help us to keep our eyes on YOU and to remain hopeful right in the middle of the impossible, because of the Empty Grave.


Because of the empty grave, there is hope in emptiness.

Keep your eyes on the Lord. Hopelessness will try to consume you at some point in your life, but look to the empty tomb, and the hope in the Resurrection of Christ and know that He loves you enough to take on death, hell and your fears for you.

Don’t focus on fear or failure.  Focus on the Father.


Yes, I will

 Yes, I will


In Christ Alone

In Christ Alone


I will Follow

Interview with a Cowboy!

Robert Wilson, @CwbyWsdm on twitter was kind enough to interview me on his blog talk radio.  This act alone is an amazing way of spreading joy as it allowed me to get the word out to many that I could not have reached without his help.

Cowboy Wisdom NLP Coaching energizes personal expansion spiritual enrichment with common sense. I am Hypnotherapist Neuro-Linguistic Speaker Published Author.

Cowboy Wisdom

Cowboy = Common sense savvy and fundamental life know-how

Wisdom = My Inner Lore that provides you with a saddle to ride through your journey of growth in all facets of your life.

I am an everyday life coach, brimming with common sense and wisdom for constructive fundamental change. Straight forward thoughts parallel an uncomplicated life with a positive lasso thrown to the Universe for visible results in your life. Cowboy Wisdom is fundamental life coaching with you focusing on your intentions, triggering a domino effect of positive changes in your life.

Your wagon train is beginning right now to the new frontiers of your life. Are you ready to saddle up and start?

Here is the link to the Blog Talk Interview! Enjoy

Spreading JOY Blog Talk Interview

Thank you, Robert, for allowing me to talk about my passion of Spreading Joy and encouraging others to make a difference where they are, with what they have. Thank you for giving me the opportunity to tell others that “There’s No Joy like Spreading Joy!” and Thank you for always starting my day out with a smile.

What do you think of the interview? Do you think we could be spreading joy across America? Do you think we’ll be able to raise $20,000 for our Back2School project?

Do you realize that the little things you do adds up to be HUGE rewards, return and will continue to grow in the hearts of those you touch?

Rob has several books that have been published.  Check them out here!

{{HUGS}} Yall

It’s been MY pleasure to speak with Rob several times.  He has a huge heart for helping others and is a supporter of Spreading JOY.  Here are the other interviews that we’ve done, discussing how spreading joy is helping, encouraging and motivating others.

Helping others at Christmas

Summer 2010 Interview