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September 1, 2009 by Spreading Joy

Let Go of the Guilt

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I love quotes, they inspire me, motivate me and I simply love reading them. I was blessed in particular by one recently.

The strong are not always vigorous,
The wise are not always ready,
The brave are not always courageous,
And the joyous are not always happy.
~Charles Haddon Spurgeon

Wouldn’t be nice to always be strong and vigorous, wise and ready, brave and courageous as well as joyous and happy. But the fact of the matter is that we can’t always be this way. Being brave with out being courageous isn’t what gets us down, it is the guilt that goes along with it. Being joyous and noticing the joys that surround us without being happy feels like it should be wrong on some level and then the guilt begins.

When the storms start raging around us and we take our eyes off of our blessings and the unhappiness sets in, that is when the guilt creeps in too. The raging winds of mounting bills, job loss, unexpected emergencies, chronic or even sudden illness are enough to make the happiest person feel sadness and turn their focus to the tornado force winds that are raging around them. Then – as if anything else is needed, the guilt quitely slips in covered by all of the problems.

We have to let go of that guilt! We are all going to have times of sadness when our heart is heavy and we need a friend we can call. We shouldn’t feel guilty about making that call. We will find that our friends will love us even more if we trust them to lift us up during the raging winds. We all have times where we are afraid of the next step, but the courage kicks in when we pick our foot up and begin the journey. Don’t let the guilt of not always being what you think everyone expects you to be get you down and keep you from soaring to heights unknown.

Be comfortable with yourself, right where you are, right now. Me? I’m the happy go lucky kind of gal that loves the small, cute fun things in life. Have you seen the games that are key chained size? Oh, I adore that kind of stuff and it excites me. I mean really excites me – like a kid in the “oh my goodness – LOOK at this!!!” kind of way. I’m usually very “singy”,talkative and just love the moment. But there are times that I’m not my normal singy, silly self and am actually kind of “blah”. I do try my best not to let those times in my days spill over and affect someone else. I always want to lift up and encourage, but occasionally I need to be lifted and encouraged AND I need to not feel guilty about it. But – that is the hard part. NOT feeling guilty. Think about it – I am spreading joy, right? I am all about making a difference, doing for others and making others smile. I love reminding others to look for the joy that is there, no matter the storms that are around you. So, with spreading all kinds of joy – you wonder how can I be sad?

It happens. Trust me. I can name a handful of people that can pick up on it. I do love encouraging others, so I really try and not let it spill over into my day. There are times that these people don’t have to “pick up” on it. I come right out and say – HELP!!

Letting go of the guilt isn’t easy as it clings to you. You’ll have to fight to get rid of it. Don’t be afraid to open your heart when it is hurting. You never know who has been there, done that and can offer up words of encouragement simply because they remember how you feel. Sharing your sad/bad/unhappy times also allows someone to be a blessing to you. It is such a wonderful feeling when someone is dealing with something horrible and we help them.

I’m always encouraged when I start praying for someone else or DOING for someone else. I love sending my mom flowers and need to do so real soon just because I love her so very much. I remember shortly after my Dad died, I was struggling so horribly. I had spent a week of wanting to (and actually did) just sleep through the grief and ignore the entire world because I felt that I couldn’t get past this consuming emotion. I sent her flowers for the soul purpose of lifting my own spirits. Greedy of me – don’t you think? But it’s the truth. I didn’t feel guilty about doing it and unless she reads this, she won’t even know that was why she got them. I did have to work past the guilt of “grieving” in such a horrible way. (I should have called my very bestest friends for help that week. I made things worse by sleeping and robbed them of a chance to be a blessing to me)

 

Don’t let guilt keep you from making a difference. Don’t let guilt of needing a little encouragement steal your joy! That is what our friends and family are for, to help us through the rough patches. You can still have joy for the journey – even when you are not feeling the greatest, experiencing the best or being your normal, silly, giddy and crazy self. Focus on your favorite things. All of them, regardless of how small or insignificant you think they may be. Another thing to help get past the blues, do something for someone else. Even if just an email saying “I appreciate you!”

What guilt do you need to let go of? What weight do you need to set aside and move past? Never feel guilty for being honest when someone says “how are you today?” If you need prayer, ask for it. Don’t feel guilty for doing so. I take great pleasure in praying for others. When you ask for prayer, you are, in a sense – bringing joy to others for allowing them the honor of praying for you. Do you need a hug, a smile? What is it that you need to help get you through this “down” time. Don’t feel guilty for asking!

Remember – I will always love and appreciate you for who you are deep down. If I ask how you are and you are feeling kind of icky and tell me the truth, I will still love and appreciate you just for who you are. I will never, ever hold the weepy, blah feeling moments against you and will always be willing to help you smile. I will probably search for a song, verse, quote – something to help lift your spirits. Something just for you. I’m not good with telling jokes. Actually stink at it – but am always good for a hug. Hugs are such a wonderful thing – even virtual ones.

I’m so thankful that when I need prayer that there are so many people that will pray on my behalf. I’m so thankful that when I need a hug – I know all I have to do is ask!! I’m so thankful that when I need a smile, someone is usually there with a pocket full of wonderful smiles and are willing to share them! I’m thankful I can ask for help without feeling guilty.

No matter how difficult life can be the most important thing is to live it with hope.–Anonymous

 

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  1. 1

    Melanie says

    September 16, 2009 at 12:14 pm

    Sometimes I am awe of how Spirit finds a way to share with me the love and support I am needing at a particular moment.

    This post reflected so much of what I've been struggling with lately: financial stress, feelings of failure, not being the person I want to be. It's rough. It's isolating.

    Thank you for this reminder that it is not only our light, but our whole self that is loved by our family, friends, and God and that we can always lean on them.

    I love you Marie and am so grateful for the amazing wisdom and joy you add to my life. Blessed Be.

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    Marie says

    October 8, 2009 at 11:53 pm

    @Melanie Thank you for your beautiful words of encouragement. We all have growth issues, doubt and other insecurities – all of us..and it's ok. We just tend to make ourselves feel guilty. Thanks for being someone I can be honest with.

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    Margo @_h0psc0tch_ says

    May 24, 2011 at 12:43 pm

    I thought I’d visit after seeing your tweet about this post.

    Life is such a struggle, but it helps to keep an eye open for my blessings, and they are always there, just easy to overlook.

    And lately, I feel a bit guilty about my blessings because other family members are falling apart. It is simply the law of natural consequences at work, but I still feel bad because I am at last beginning to reap what I have sewn all along and, sadly, other family members are too…I don’t know how to feel good about my success when I think of their pain. Any suggestions?
    Margo @_h0psc0tch_ recently posted..Almost Starbucks©

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      Spreading Joy says

      May 24, 2011 at 11:41 pm

      That is a tough one. you want to help, but cant, you want to share in your happiness but feel guilty.

      Do what you can for them, encourage but still….don’t feel guilty. You are not rubbing their noses in your blessings, but you can give inspiration and hope to them.

      YOU are always such a blessing to me too!!

      {{HUGS}}

      Reply

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